brihateseverything:

cygnaut:

poesieplease:

whistle-notes:

coldasaslab:

johnstamostimelessbeauty:

Here’s something to chew on.

about me.jpg

honestly

In case you wanna read the article this quote is from: http://rolereboot.org/culture-and-politics/details/2016-05-daughter-know-ok-angry/

Adaptable girls find socially acceptable ways to internalize or channel their discomfort and ire, sometimes at great personal cost. Passive aggressive behavior, anxiety, and depression are common effects. Sarcasm, apathy, and meanness have all been linked to suppressed rage. Troublesome behaviors, such as lying, skipping school, bullying other people, even being socially awkward are often signs that a teenager is dealing with anger that they are unable to name as anger.

Girls, taught to ignore their anger, become disassociated from themselves.

Anger is so successfully sublimated that girls lose the ability to understand what it feels and looks like. Is her heart racing? Does she feel flushed or shaky? Does she clench her jaws at night? Is she breaking out in hives? Does she cry for no reason? Laugh inappropriately during difficult conversations? Fly off the handle over something that seems inconsequential? You can see where I’m going here…those crazy girl hormones, right? Better to just think of it as a phase.

For too many women, however, the phase never ends. It’s lives spent never expressing anger at all and believing that they don’t have the right or ability to do so without great risk.

Explains a hell of a whole lot about ne

Anyone know where to find this article? The link doesn’t seem to be working for me…

I once told a joke about a straight person.

They came after me in droves.

Each one singing the same:

Don’t fight fire with fire.

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What they mean is: Don’t fight fire with anything.

Do not fight fire with water.

Do not fight fire with foam.

Do not evacuate the people.

Do not sound the alarms.

Do not crawl coughing and choking and spluttering to safety.

Do not barricade the door with damp towels.

Do not wave a white flag out of the window.

Do not take the plunge from several storeys up.

Do not shed a tear for your lover trapped behind a wall of flame.

Do not curse the combination of fuel, heat, and oxygen.

Do not ask why the fire fighters are not coming.

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When they say: Don’t fight fire with fire.

What they mean is: Stand and burn.

Stand and Burn by Claudia Boleyn.  (via claudiaboleyn)

lesbianyeller:

quotaqueen:

lesbianyeller:

To every lesbian who is struggling:

  • I love you
  • You are enough as you are
  • Being a lesbian is not a dirty, inappropriate, R-rated or bad thing like they will try to tell you. You do not deserve to be overly sexualized just because you love women, I’m sorry that society treats us like this.
  • You do not have the ‘male gaze’. Being a lesbian is not predatory. You are allowed to find women cute, pretty, beautiful,sexy, desirable. You are allowed to feel sexual attraction towards women. I know sometimes you will feel guilty, predatory, or unclean when you feel that way but know that those negative feelings come from internalized lesbophobia – it is okay, you are okay.
  • You are not close-minded for not being ‘open’ to all genders. Its okay to love only women and prioritize them. You do not have to agree when someone tells you that sexuality is fluid. You are allowed to be solid. You are allowed to only love women.
  • Yes, historically lesbians have had a weird relationship with gender – talk to someone if you’re confused. I know I’m always happy to have a chat.
  • Yes, comp het is a real thing and it affects most lesbians and it can get really confusing sometimes. Don’t be afraid to explore your identity and ask the tough questions.
  • I know we joke about it in the lesbian community a lot but lesbian loneliness is another thing you’ll most likely experience at some point. Its okay, we’ve all been there – but it does get easier.
  • The LGBT community is rampant with blatant poorly disguised lesbophobia and it sucks that we often feel so isolated in our own community but trust me – there are safe spaces, there are other lesbians who are kind and loving and can’t wait to meet you. We all can’t wait to meet you.

honestly the male gaze thing is such a guilt inducing feeling like I feel as if I’m constantly a predator for flirting or approaching women???

@quotaqueen I’m sorry that you feel like that, but many of us do. We’re taught from a young age that being a lesbian is predatory and we are grouped in with men. Most of us feel like predators and we feel so guilty when we actually feel attraction to women. But loving women is good and wholesome and amazing and remember that you are not alone and a bunch of us here are here to support you when you feel bad. Feel free to message me if you want!

tag urself as a student

spideystudy:

i.d.g.a.f:  goes to school unbothered, doesn’t give a shit about makeup or looking nice, constantly has a water bottle filled, when they’re not taking notes they’re sleeping in class, goes home and actually studies/does homework, bottles up emotions, wants to travel

covfefe: lives their life on coffee and tea, always participates in class discussions, likes to observe, challenges themselves sometimes a little too much, needs more sleep, always trying to make plans to fill up their schedule, likes aesthetics

netflix & procrastinate: honestly wants to do well, gets distracted easily, when they’re focused they get shit done, pulls lots of all nighters, tells everyone ‘im fine’ when not fine, accidentally skips breakfast, loves their friends, gets anxiety over tests and quizzes

pastel: is always organized, loves to journal, actually listens to the teacher, people think they’re always super sweet, wants to visit japan, loves animals, does research for fun, looks over work 948208 times before turning it in, watches horror movies and then regrets it

complaint department: acts like they didn’t have enough time to do homework (they did), blames others for their problems, doesn’t study then cry when they get a bad grade, secretly is very insecure, is always out “sick”, acts better than others for no reason sometimes

chilly child: is very relaxed but knows how to work, is nice to their teachers, tries to avoid half-assing things, loves autumn, likes studying with other people, is very self motivating, tries not to focus on the letter grade but rather how hard they worked, and tbh they’re just tryna enjoy life,