lesbianyeller:

quotaqueen:

lesbianyeller:

To every lesbian who is struggling:

• I love you
• You are enough as you are
• Being a lesbian is not a dirty, inappropriate, R-rated or bad thing like they will try to tell you. You do not deserve to be overly sexualized just because you love women, I’m sorry that society treats us like this.
• You do not have the ‘male gaze’. Being a lesbian is not predatory. You are allowed to find women cute, pretty, beautiful,sexy, desirable. You are allowed to feel sexual attraction towards women. I know sometimes you will feel guilty, predatory, or unclean when you feel that way but know that those negative feelings come from internalized lesbophobia – it is okay, you are okay.
• You are not close-minded for not being ‘open’ to all genders. Its okay to love only women and prioritize them. You do not have to agree when someone tells you that sexuality is fluid. You are allowed to be solid. You are allowed to only love women.
• Yes, historically lesbians have had a weird relationship with gender – talk to someone if you’re confused. I know I’m always happy to have a chat.
• Yes, comp het is a real thing and it affects most lesbians and it can get really confusing sometimes. Don’t be afraid to explore your identity and ask the tough questions.
• I know we joke about it in the lesbian community a lot but lesbian loneliness is another thing you’ll most likely experience at some point. Its okay, we’ve all been there – but it does get easier.
• The LGBT community is rampant with blatant poorly disguised lesbophobia and it sucks that we often feel so isolated in our own community but trust me – there are safe spaces, there are other lesbians who are kind and loving and can’t wait to meet you. We all can’t wait to meet you.

honestly the male gaze thing is such a guilt inducing feeling like I feel as if I’m constantly a predator for flirting or approaching women???

@quotaqueen I’m sorry that you feel like that, but many of us do. We’re taught from a young age that being a lesbian is predatory and we are grouped in with men. Most of us feel like predators and we feel so guilty when we actually feel attraction to women. But loving women is good and wholesome and amazing and remember that you are not alone and a bunch of us here are here to support you when you feel bad. Feel free to message me if you want!